In today’s world, young people have countless opportunities and freedom to do whatever they feel like doing and that includes their decision to engage in sexual activity. There are a lot of young people out there finding their sexual grooves.
According to Lovin.ie the average age for losing virginity to penetrative sex in Ireland is 17.
This can be a time when women learn about themselves, their desires, what they like and want VS what they dislike and don’t want. The vast majority of women are having sex for the first time, with each passing year, the learning curve can be huge.
We’ve decided to arm you with the knowledge we’ve accumulated from women in their late teens all the way to their late twenties. So whether it’s the life-altering benefits of foreplay or the sheer importance of communication, here are some of the valuable lessons they taught us based on their own experiences while they’re are still on a life long learning journey about sex.
It’s crucial to keep an open mind, while these tips worked for them, they may not necessarily work for you. And that’s okay!
Talking about sexual experiences and sharing them will only help you get a better understanding of the sexual landscape, not to mention what you might discover about yourself along the way.
So without further ado here are the tips we learned from these amazing women about sex.
#WEE AFTER SEX
Don’t underestimate the importance of this one, don’t doze off, make a sandwich or flute around naked. Nothing is worse than the burning sensation of a UTI or infection, better to be safe than sorry.
#EXPERIMENT, EXPERIMENT, EXPERIMENT
Put on a masquerade ball mask or nurse’s outfit. Buy some vibrators, anal beads, ball gags and fucking machines. Let your boyfriend or that stranger you met on Ello.ie spank your ass until it turns raw like a chicken breast.
#RUB THAT PUSS
Find your favorite Pornhub video, I know what you’re thinking you’re not into porn! Pornhub is the number 7th most visited site in Ireland, everybody watches porn. It’s time to close your eyes and fantasise about that tall dark and handsome stranger that you just met and clicked he just knows where all your right spots are. Make yourself come in multiple ways, it’s only going to improve your sex life.
#ALWAYS INSIST ON A RUBBER UNTIL ITS ON.
Using a condom is the safest way to protect yourself from a variety of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and pregnancy. So using a condom is a must even if you’re on the pill.
#YOUR DARKEST DESIRES AND FANTASIES
Do you like weeing on people? Maybe you like to watch a pregnant woman bang 30 dudes at once. It’s time to find out what exactly is it that makes you soaking wet.
#WATCH WHO YOU SHARE YOUR F’s & D’s WITH
Remember: Not everyone will find your desires and fantasies as “sexy” and a “turn on” as you do and that’s ok. Take it with a pinch of salt and walk away. There will always be many people out there matching your kinky desires and fantasies and also be willing to act upon them with you.
#LOVE & PAMPER YOURSELF
It’s probably absolutely bangin’ in your late teens to early twenties. Wear beautiful lingerie, take those sexy photos of your beautiful self, and admire the wonderful creature that you are.
#LOOK AFTER YOUR BODY
Alright just because your boobs are perky, firm and your stomach is super flat now, chances are it won’t last forever, especially if you abuse your body with excessive drinking, smoking and doing drugs, it’s alright to get drunk, eat junk food and have the odd mary-jane now and then, but don’t overdo it and certainly there is no excuse for smoking cigarettes. Why? Because it doesn’t reward you with a buzz, it’s just a smelly filthy habit that has thousands of diseases clinging onto it.
#STAY TRUE TO YOUR INTENTIONS
If you’re only looking for casual sex, say that. If you want a serious relationship, say that too. Honesty is the only way to get what you want. Men will respect that.
#LEARN THE ART OF GIVING PROPER HEAD
A lot of men (including those wimpy mammy’s boys) care about this more than you think. Research a few techniques then do it while looking at him, enjoy the hell outta that cocksicle. Oh, and make him moan louder and when it’s his turn to return you the favour show him where your clit is.
#DONT FORCE YOURSELF INTO HAVING SEX
As the saying goes if something sounds too god to be true it probably is, same is true when it comes to your “gut feeling” if something doesn’t feel right, then chances are that it isn’t. Even if you’re already in the middle of a grand orgy. Trust your instinct, and don’t let anyone forcefully convince you otherwise.
#GOT THAT TINGLY ITCH ON A FIRST DATE?
Truthfully, not many men are going to rock your boat on a first date (sorry guys) guys don’t date guys so they don’t know how weird and strange some men are. So if you come across that real prince charming that gets you all wet and juicy while drinking a coffee, you may go ahead and fuck your brains out if you want, what you do with your body is nobody’s concern but yours.
#CHARM OVER THE SKIN
No, you don’t need to wear the skimpiest skirt or the low cut top to get his attention. You want him to like you because you’re charming and not because of his intentions of getting in your mouth as fast as possible.
#PORN IS NOT CHEATING
It is but only for those super insecure women who think it’s ok to fantasise about that stranger they hopped on as fast as they possibly could while being drunk but their man can’t watch porn.
My dear fellow women, if you catch him watching porn, don’t freak out. It doesn’t mean he thinks you’re butt ugly and doesn’t want to have sex with them, even if he did he simply can’t, you shouldn’t compare your body, your flexibility, or even your gag reflex skills, in the same vein, go ahead and bookmark a few favourite videos while you do the role-play for the #1st one on this list.
#ACT CONFIDENT AS IF YOU KNOW IT ALL
Even if you haven’t got a clue about what you’re doing, act like it. You must know that “sex doesn’t have to last for an hour to be classed as good.” Relaxing music, romantic candles, and lots of exploration towards foreplay can be great. A quick dark-alley-bend-over or fully-clothed-fornication can also be very rewarding if they are done spontaneously.
#ANAL IS YOUR CHOICE AND YOUR CHOICE ONLY
Anal is hit or miss, there is no other way to put it. If done right (Lube is a gift from Jesus himself so don’t you dare think about having anal without it) you may feel great and squirt like hell, on the other hand, if your partner has little to no prior anal penetration experience and try to force it in, that will hurt like the devil is fucking you himself! Listen to your inner voice and be comfortable saying “no” when you encounter something you aren’t comfortable with.
HATERS ARE YOUR FANS TOO
And those fans don’t need to be given any attention. There will always be someone calling you a slut, a tramp, a wagon, a bitch, a whore, a tease. They might be friends, or they might be strangers, men and women. Their words are nothing but a product of their judgment and/or jealousy.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND/OR YOUR PUSS
There is absolutely nothing wrong in having sex with someone just because they’re hot as fuck, like that, there is nothing wrong in loving someone while wanting to withhold sex.
I have seen countless happy people in situations where sex exists without love being present, and situations where people love someone and want to hold off from having sex. Sex does exist without love and love does exist without sex. There are no rules whatsoever when it comes to either.