There are far more ways to show someone you love them then there are people in the world to love. You can use just about anything from words, touch, small gestures, gifts, time, food so on and so on. Showing the one you love just how much they mean to you can be done in little ways or big ways, in the end, they all add up and show your love and care.

Here you will find a list of special things to do for the one you love, chances are you if you’re in love you already do most if not all.

This list below isn’t for one-sided love or for relationships that are done and dusted. This isn’t a stalker’s how-to guide to expressing affection either. It is, however, a good list of what we should do when we love our partners and is no way exhaustive, so lets begin.

#WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE, YOU SHOULD…

1. Show Them You Love Them

As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words, its true; actions scream intent, you wouldn’t down a glass of water when you aren’t thirsty or eat when you aren’t hungry. Just like that when you’re in love your actions can tell a whole lot, you just got to make sure they are there to notice them. Hold their hand, it doesn’t matter whether you’re in private or in public, what it does is it shows the person you’re with and the world that you love each other.

2. Tell Them You Love Them

This is pretty obvious but the vast majority of people take this for granted and lack consistency, life is short you never know if you will ever see them again or you will be around to tell them how much you love them.

3. Be Punctual

When you decide to meet up for lunch, dinner, drinks or whatever, don’t let them dry out, be there on time, it shows them that you care just as I mentioned in my 1st point. 

4. Accept Their Flaws

Nobody is perfect, including you! In a world of Snapchat and Instagram most (if not all) photos that you see are filtered to the max, the people in those photos look so picture-perfect but in reality, most people look nothing like those filtered folks. 

5. Admit & Apologise When Wrong

Don’t let your ego tell you otherwise, there is nothing more annoying and narcissistic than you not apologising when you know you are in the wrong, don’t wait and certainly don’t sleep over it, you know it will turn into a bigger problem the following day and you will find it even harder to apologise, if it was your fault, it’s ok you have learned (assuming you have) we all mess up at times, now its time to apologise and make amends, after all, you love this person, dont you?

6. Make Amends

What good is apology if it’s not followed by making amends? Just a word “sorry” won’t cut it, you got to do it the right way and make sure that air is genuinely cleared and there are no grudges or oddness left thereafter, we Irish are terrible at letting bygones be bygones but with a little bit of help and encouragement, you can do it.

7. Keep “Shit Testing” To A Minimum

Sorry guys, this one is only for the ladies. Sadly its not possible to completely eradicate “shit testing” because women are hard-wired to “shit test” guys, but some women take this to an extreme due to their “personal insecurities” they are always challenging their partners to see if they are strong enough and still love them until it gets to point that their partners don’t take them seriously which obviously creates a myriad of problems, so should keep “shit-testing” to a minimum.

8. Be Honest

Honestly is the best policy. However, there are situations that require you to be more cautious and choose your words wisely to say the least, especially when you run a risk of hurting someone’s feelings, especially when that someone is the one you love! So for example; if your partner is lazy or obese you don’t want to tell them that they are “fat” and “lazy ass”, wait… don’t jump into conclusions just yet, by no means I am encouraging you to lie or manipulate them either but instead, be polite and ensure they understand what you are trying to tell them and deliver it in a way that they see and understand your concern about their health because you love and care deeply.

9. Be Faithful

Yes fellas, keep it in your pants and keep your legs closed ladies because you’re in love. Don’t flirt with strangers, colleagues or friends (we are all guilty of this at some point in our relationships). However, flirting is a gateway that leads to infidelity down the line, in other words, cheating is a byproduct of flirtation, so if your partner is ok with it and they understand that you don’t mean any harm (given that you genuinely don’t) and that they are not jealous of you flirting a little here and there then suit yourself.

10. Your Attention & Listening Ear

When you genuinely love someone you will give them your undivided attention accompanied by your listening ear and respect to go along with it. 

11. Trust

Like humans need oxygen to survive, trust is a foundation that loving relationships are built upon, being in love you should trust your partner to have your best interest at heart and vice-versa, its the most important element in a healthy and loving relationship without one love cannot survive. 

12. Work Like A Team

When you’re in love you feel a sense of belonging as if you are part of a team, a couple that plays together stays together. Never take anything for granted and always be thankful for the blessing bestowed upon you by expressing your gratitude, it goes a long way. Confront problems with them rather than seeing them as a cause of the problem. It’s vital you understand that love is blind and unconditional, however; your relationship isn’t! Never tolerate abuse of any kind whether its physical or mental.

13. Push Them 

No, not to the curb or off the balcony but towards their interests, dreams, and goals, remember if they win, you win too if they lose you lose also. Support their growth each day by assuring them that they are doing great and offer your help at the same time by asking if there is anything you could do at all to help them achieve their dreams and goals, don’t rush and certainly don’t put any pressure on them, You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant.

14. Laugh Together

Share funny stories, watch funny movies, crack jokes, if you really want to do something you will find a million reasons to do it (and a million others if you don’t want to) sense of humor serves as a diet to love and without one love will eventually starve to death. 

15. Wining & Dining

I am sure you have heard of the saying“the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” (or through alcohol for the Irish men, no pun intended) and trust me it’s equally true for the vast majority of women, (no, not the alcohol but the food) yes you may find one grass-fed Josephine here and there who chooses to stay that way but “the way to most women’s heart is also through their stomach,” you feed your woman well and she’ll be more interested in romance, Ya… Thank me later. 

What if you don’t love someone but decide to hang on anyway? What if they just aren’t for you?

Don’t waste your time or theirs, don’t use them. Don’t try to change them into who you want them to be. Don’t make them feel bad for not being enough for you. Don’t hurt them by trying not to hurt them because that sucks.

You can do one thing. Yes, one thing and that’s…

Letting them go…