So you’re in a new relationship, and you seem to be really excited about it and there is a damn good reason for it but there’s just one problem — Your family or friends (or both) don’t trust your new love choice and have their doubts.
That’s one hell of a big problem. It’s not that they think your partner isn’t fun to be around or attractive but it’s that they think your newly found love just isn’t trustworthy.
There is no doubt that you love and value your friends and family, therefore it pays to know how to react if your close ones don’t trust your new love choice.
First of all, we cannot emphasise on how important it to listen to their concerns without shutting them out.
You may (will) not like what they’ll have to say but a true hard fact is when people first fall in love, they usually get shrinking in their part of the brain (ventromedial prefrontal cortex) that is responsible for making judgements.
So put it this way, newly found love decreases your brains ability to see and judge as you would’ve, had you not been involved romantically with that person.
What we are saying is, your opinion might be (more than likely is always) clouded by newly found love and that would make you ignore obvious warning signs or even red flags earlier on in the relationship.
However, unlike you, your friends and family can see things clearly. They can back you up if your newly found love actually has done something out of the ordinary or not you, should always listen to your family and friends opinions.
It is important, especially if you’ve been hurt in your relationships before because your close ones know your relationship history and patterns, they might (will) spot things that you do not immediately see.
Everyone should be selective about who you they trust and confide in, but also be able to have a heart-to-heart if they know they have a pattern of bad choices,.
Your family and friends act as an extra layer of safety, beside that you need to stop yourself from getting hurt over and over again, so be sure to value their opinions if you know you’ve being fooled in your relationships before.
By no means we are stereotyping your new partner, your loved ones are already on the lookout for any warning signs, and it’s a privilege to have a second or third or fourth or fifth set of eyes looking out for you.
You should also do family-for-family and friend-for-friend comparison to see how many of your family and friends don’t trust your partner.
If it’s just one family member who always find something bad in everyone they meet or just that friend who is always talking behind people’s then its not a worrying sign.
However, if you hear similar concerns from most of your loved ones that mean you should not ignore their opinion as they may be worth looking into.
Usually when multiple members of your friends and family don’t trust your romance choice, that’s always a bigger cause for concern.
It’s pretty naive to ignore the views of a wider group of family and friends when they pretty much share the same opinion you should be willing to look honestly at your romance interest.
Once you’re done with the due diligence, should you decide to continue the relationship, the good news is, it’s entirely possible to have a successful relationship with someone your family or friends don’t trust.
At the end of the day, it’s your relationship and you need to use your judgment based upon your past experiences with the person you are with.
You must know a lot of intimate details that you haven’t divulged to your loved ones, and you’re not obligated to tell them either.
A lot of relationships begin with a rocky start, sometimes people complain to their family and friends about their partner and things that they don’t like in them followed by a dramatic exaggeration, what that does is make their partner look bad.
They deliberately hide their role in the rockiness along with their partner’s attempts to make peace and desire for resolution, so down the line your friends and family struggle to trust your partner.
At the end of the day, it’s your life, you get to choose who you allow into it and how to move forward.
Once you’ve heard your friends concerns and they are down to you exaggerating your problems with your romance, you should know the best thing you can do is stop discussing your relationship with them. If you genuinely don’t have anything good to say about your partner don’t say anything.
If they give you their opinion just hear them out, you can also tell them that you appreciate their concerns however you don’t need their opinions.
Meanwhile, make sure you understand why they don’t trust your love and evaluate for yourself if their reasons are of any importance to you.
You should know your love interest better than your family and friends do.
It can be tough when your close ones don’t trust your partner.
You love your family and friends, but you also want a healthy relationship with your newly found romance.
We suggest everyone to be open towards their friends and familys concerns, but also be willing to make their own choices about the relationship.
Your true friends and your family will always be there, so don’t worry about losing them because of your love choice.
With that being said we have come to the end of this post, we hope you a have learned a lot of valuable information
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